3 December 2008, 11:31 am
My husband and I have been married for 12yrs and have been together for 17 years ( high school sweethearts). We have three beautiful children together. When we had our third I decided to stay home and care for the children because childcare was through the roof and my husband and I started a plumbing co., so I quit my position as an escrow assistant and have been helping with the business since then. About four years ago we really started to pick things up (thanks to me) after working my butt off and sacrificed shopping to save for business, we were doing great!! About two years ago it was all about work and kids to me and my husband just had money on his mind and we started distancing ourselfs from each other. On May 9th, we went to my brother n law's family Mother's Day party. They had some family members come from Mexico. There was this old loose skank dancing everywhere trying to get everyone's attention and I did feel a vibe with her looking at my husband but, I felt no intimidation by her so it did not even bother me. On June 16th my husband started asking me stupid questions like "do you think well grow old together" and I would respond "of course" then he would say "I don't know". When he said that, I thought something's not right he has never responded like that before. After that, he would come home upset, never eat my dinner, yell at the kids and even smell like liquor. He would go straight into the patio or pool and start listening to his ipod. He would say some harsh things to me. I finally confronted him and asked if he was seeing someone else. He said"no". I found calling cards in his wallet and knew that he was seeing someone. He kept telling that I was crazy and I need to get my lazy ass and start working and that I think I'm too good for everyone, which by the way, I am about the most down to earth person you will ever meet. He basically made me feel worthless like if I was someone who sits on my ass all day and eats bon bons. He would make me cry out of shock that he was behaving the way he was. He told me he needed some time off and wanted to start his business in an other city with us but did not want us to go until everything was good. For me it was a matter of catching him. I knew he was not going to tell me and obviouly who ever he was seeing knew he was married and I knew that she wanted what I had. So I went to the bank and cleaned him out. After all, I deserved it after cleaning, cooking, working, caring for his children, involved in their school, not having my old friends, put my life on hold for his dreams to become a reality while mine stood on the back burner for what? I was not about to allow any skank get what I worked so hard for. He was upset but not suprised. I literally went into shock, I felt my life was over and my husband seemed like he did'nt care to take me to the hospital. He left out of town. Two days after being out of town he starts calling me like crazy wanting to come home and he was sorry for everything. I did not want him back. The children and I went to stay with my parents. I had time to think and started to think that sadly to say that I could not be at my own and it would be wise to let him come back so I could go to school and needed to start something for myself and was definetly not going to let someone take my place after all the hard work that I have but into MY FAMILY but I had to know who she was to be sure it was over. So I gave my husband the ultimatium tell me who it is and maybe I will let you back into my life. After he told me the whole story that it was the relative of my n law, whom lives in Mexico, basically he thought he really liked her but once he spent two nights with her after all the sex, he decided that was not what he wanted(selfish man).He is back and I sometimes feel our relationship is better and he has changed but so have I. Talk about humiliation. from having the relationship that everyone admirred turn to almost losing your husband to everyone having their say and comment about what happened and telling me what I should do. I feel that he got away with it to easy. I have had my chance to cheat on him numerous times, but think of the outcome would be. Our kids have gone through enough and do'nt need anymore drama but sometimes I feel that if I cheat, maybe it would make me feel better so I am asking you, since there is no emotion attached what do you think? Thank you for reading my long detail...... Read More »
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